In a compelling TED Talk video, nurse practitioner Jane Epstein makes the case that our efforts are sadly lacking with it comes to talking to teen girls and young women. In an episode of ASHA’s podcast with Ms. Epstein, we delve deeper into the topic, discussing not only what to say when talking to young females about sex, but how to help them speak up for themselves.
Sex, relationships, and personal boundaries can feel like they require guidance, and the truth is: they do. Whether there is some form of curious interest or nerves are welcome aboard, understanding personal choices alongside the relevance of healthy, respectful relationships is a life skill above all.
This post aims to cover everything in regards to young women wanting to have sex while maintaining constructive and healthy dialogue. We will cover everything from female anatomy to the practice of safe sex—and do so in vibrant ways that make you confident and comfortable in making choices about your body and your life.
Understanding Your Body: A Celebration of Female Anatomy
Knowing your body and beautiful anatomy gives you the empowerment to take charge of your sexual health, ladies! Our bodies are captivating, powerful, and diverse. Here’s what you need to know:
Your Anatomy 101
- Vulva vs. Vagina:
The outer visible structure of your private parts is known as vulva; a canal that is accessible leading to the uterus is the vagina.
- Clitoris:
The most sensitive and valuable area for a female is the clitoris (it has 8000 nerve endings, more than a penis has!). Yes, you read that right!
Your Cycle and Sexual Health
For many, the menstrual cycle is a tedious monthly affair that comes with both physical and emotional ‘obstacles’ to navigate. It doesn’t help when the “low” feels endless. The cycle can serve as a great indicator of health and should not be ignored. It is always better to proactively seek assistance rather than be reactive in case of medical assistance.
Listening to Your Body
The feelings of happiness, pleasure, and excitement are not foreign to any human being. If anything, it is essential to understand what feels good period. Self-exploration and experimentation, with or without a partner, can work wonders for your self-confidence as well as your sexual health. You go, girl!
Safe Sex Practices: Protect Yourself and Your Partners
Relationships based on physical intimacy can be quite fun, but damn, can they be scary. You have the right to feel empowered, informed, and most importantly, protected. Here’s your easy yet not too easy guide to protecting your sexual health:
Contraception Options
No one wants to hear that they need a pregnancy scare. Here are some common birth control methods reliable for pregnant women or women scaring of getting pregnant.
- The Pill:
Their popularity speaks for itself. However, you shouldn’t go a day without consuming one.
- Condoms:
Not only do these help prevent unwanted pregnancies, they also protect against STIs. If anything, always carry one for your own safety.
- IUDs and Implants:
Women looking for ultra convenient long term solutions.
Stay Safe from STIs
Do you know what is more appealing than lingerie? Being aware of your STI status. Regular testing guarantees that both you and your partner are protected. Make sure to use dental dams and condoms for further protection.
Communication is Key
Both intimacy and sex can be pleasurable, but only when both individuals willingly engage. Healthy interactions starts with reciprocal consent and respect. Here’s how to make sure boundaries are clearly established and follow through.
Consent and Healthy Relationships: Setting Boundaries With Confidence
The term “consent” is not for a single instance answer of “yes.” Consent is enthusiastic, active, and ongoing agreement. Consent can definitely be sexy as well! When a partner checks in with statements like “Is this okay?”, “Do you like this?” that signifies taking care of one’s empathetic feelings.
Understanding Consent
Time draining relationships are the unhealthy ones. If at all, a person chooses to ignore your cry of no, chooses to put unnecessary pressure, or chose to ridicule on your decisions, getting rid of them is the best option.
Red Flags to Watch Out For
How much are you comfortable with? Identify your non-negotiables. Knowing your boundaries is the key, so be sure to take the time to identify what’s okay and set your limits.
Define What You Want
If you have a query, we are prepared to respond to some of the most frequently asked questions about sexual health for young women:
Q&A Section: Clearing Up Common Concerns
This answer is personal and should always remain that way. You are ready when it feels right without any external pressure or imposed influence from friends or a partner. You know your body best. Always follow your instincts.
“How do I know if I’m ready for sex?”
That is completely fine! Sexual experiences are not explosive adventures all the time, and that is perfectly alright. Each person copes differently and with time they will learn to trust their partner and feel confident.
“Will it hurt the first time?”
For some individuals, there might be lack of lubrication, which can make you feel discomfort. Preparation aids in getting rid of some problems. Emphasis on arousal will always help, and using lubrication if necessary will go a long way.
“What if I don’t enjoy it?”
It’s okay! The first time isn’t always fireworks, and that’s completely normal. Sexual confidence grows with time, communication, and trust.
Resources for Sexual Health and Education
Knowledge is power, ladies. Here are reliable resources to keep learning:
- Planned Parenthood (plannedparenthood.org): Comprehensive sexual health information.
- Bedsider (Bedsider.org): Contraception details and reminders.
- Scarleteen (scarleteen.com): Inclusive and youth-focused sex education.
Bookmark these sites for whenever questions arise!
A Lifetime of Dialogue and Advocacy
You have every right to love your body, embrace your choices, and be confident about them. Always remember that sexual health is a continuous conversation instead of a single dialogue. Keep inquiring, exploring, and celebrating your progress.
If this blog brought any type of curiosity, think about continuing the dialogue with a friend, a healthcare practitioner, or your parents.
Wishing you clarity and powerful decisions, young women, and gently reminding you to take ownership of your sexual health.
